Marriage VS. Living Together
So, my post today isn't really about our life here...well sorta but not really. It's just some thoughts i've had lately. Alot of our friends here, and I'm starting to see more and more of everywhere not just here, live together. To me, this just doesn't make sense. I'm not judging our friends, and I really like them and wouldn't not be friends with someone just b/c they make different choices than mine...having said that. It just seems to me that you're setting yourself up for failure. You always have an out. If you get in a fight..throw the other one out..you leave..blagh blagh blagh.. It also seems to me that it just makes life so much more difficult. This is my computer, that is your sofa, etc. Especially when dealing with money...everyone has their separate accounts but at some point someone is paying for more you know..there's always going to one person "getting the better end of the deal." I'm so glad that Brian and I didn't live together before marriage...honestly i don't think we'd be married today if we did live together and that's why i'm happy we didnt...does that make sense. I mean...looking back..we've just finished our first year right... the hardest one (hopefully) and believe me...it was that!! HARD! But we made it through, sometimes by just remembering we made that promise. If we had been living together before hand i would have been so worried everytime we fought, i wouldn't have been able to have the trust that i have in Brian (and God for helping us make it through).
Anyway, in one way of thinking, i guess people think that living together is better/easier. But i don't think so...and it's not b/c i'm conservative/liberal or anything. It just logically seems weird. I hope people don't get mad at me for writing this..because we love all our friends whether their living together or not..I've just been thinking about it alot lately.
posted by The Larsen Wells' @ 3:49 PM
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3 Comments:
Amen, sister!
And one more reason not to live together....Scripture says it's wrong!
Interesting things to think about, logically. I am not sure how I would handle having lots of friends who live together. I guess I'd just have a serious problem with it if they claimed to be Christians, you know. Tough stuff here. Anyway--keep updating. I love hearing how you and Brian are doing.
--gm
Religious reasons aside, I agree that living together prior to marriage often result in failure.
In a Marriage you have a strong bond and you have something to hold on to even if you get in some serious arguments. In lot of living together situations they'll just break up...
No one is perfect and eventually everyone will be disappointed in their partners at some point. It is hard within husband and wife to overcome crisis but even harder within living together partners.
Not generalising but in lot of instances I think it's an excuse for lack of commitment, not loving each other enough and to keep options open/make yourself available for others.
hey, amanda! i miss you a lot first of all, and second of all, we know how you feel. our neighbors (and a few other people we know) lived together...bought a house together and everything, were engaged, had been together for 4 years, and then the firl up and left. i say this because ben and i know that we made a covenant, not just in front of our friends, but in front of Christ, that will not be broken. lack of comittment is the worst thing ever...even in a regular friendship. make marriage be a symbol of Christ and the church (what it's supposed to be) because Christ never leaves us nor forsakes us.
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